Tamara’s Musical Journey

Sharing songs that bring comfort, joy, and connection

As a child in my home town of Williamsburg, Iowa, I was surrounded by music. My parents and grandparents (on my father’s side) admired the entertainers on The Ed Sullivan Show and Lawrence Welk, and their enthusiasm rubbed off on me. Looking back, I think I was eager to be someone they could admire, too. And those people on TV looked like they were having a lot of fun — and that type of fun, in the mid 1960s, seemed out of the ordinary.

Music also came from my mother’s side of the family. Both she and my grandpa, loved to sing in church. I always enjoyed hearing my mom’s voice when we sang hymns together, and my grandpa was known for singing out loud and strong.

For me, though, singing in church sometimes was not very rewarding. The hymns were often written in a key that put the women’s parts right in the “in-between” range of the voice — not very strong or comfortable. Like most of the other girls and women, I just sang softly and tried to blend in. Looking back, it almost felt like a message to stay quiet and not stand out. I didn’t really discover the strength of my own voice until I was taking singing lessons for awhile, when I began to realize, “Oh, I’m not kidding myself — maybe I can really sing!”

I sang in Sunday School, in church, and in choir throughout my school years. On family car rides, my parents were in charge of the radio dial, usually landing on old standards from the ’40s and ’50s, and I learned a lot of those songs. At home, my sister and I — often joined by a friend or two — would sometimes put on little shows. One I’ll never forget was at our family cabin community on the Mississippi River, when we sang and danced across a small swinging bridge over the canal. We thought we were just playing until we heard applause from neighbors who’d been watching. I was only about eleven, and though embarrassed, I discovered how much fun it was to be audacious with music. Even though I was shy and usually too self-conscious to sing alone in front of people, the love of music has always stayed with me.

Over the years, I’ve learned the value of daily practice, and as my authentic voice started to shine through — shaped by both dedication and spiritual growth — I feel it is moving toward the heartwarming quality I’ve always cherished in singers such as Karen Carpenter, Johnny Cash, Burl Ives, Eva Cassidy, and John Denver.

In the past year, I’ve greatly enjoyed the opportunity of performing with Doctor Dave’s Jazz Mojos at the Golden Magnolia Community Center in Fairfield, Iowa, which led to another unexpected delight: singing at retirement centers. At first, I thought it wouldn’t compare to performing in a piano bar or nightclub, but I quickly discovered how meaningful it is to share familiar songs that awaken memories and bring smiles. With my background in nursing, these moments of connection feel especially natural — music becomes not just entertainment, but a way of offering comfort, companionship, and joy.

I’m also a poet, songwriter, and visual artist, and I’ve worked through many creative blocks over the years. More recently, I’ve decided to make myself available to help others who may be interested in working through their own creative blocks. One way I do this is through creativity coaching informed by the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model.

If you—or someone you know—might be interested in exploring this further, please visit the Portfolio page, where I share more about this work, along with examples of my paintings and other creative projects. I hope you’ll take a moment to check it out!

Patsy Rose’s Musician Statement

Celebrating life’s moments through melody and memory

Having parents who loved music and dancing, I was attuned from early on to the beauty, joy, and fun of music. My mother played piano, guitar, and accordion, and all with only a few piano lessons. My father played coronet and harmonica and was a member of the City Municipal Band in my home town. All of my siblings and I had music lessons of some sort. I took piano lessons from sixth to ninth grade. Amazingly, we had no piano initially, and I practiced on a cardboard keyboard. Within a couple of months, a traveling piano salesman came by with an enclosed trailer full of pianos, and my folks bought a Bradbury console for $600. It was exciting. I played in high school for musicals and chorus, variety shows, and I also played at a Christmas festival, wedding, and a funeral. I played pipe organ for the early Sunday service at the Basilica in Dyersville, Iowa. After high school, I attended nursing school, and five years after graduating from nursing school,went back to become a certified registered nurse anesthetist. My piano playing was on the back burner for many years. About 10 years ago, I started lessons again, and I have a wonderful teacher at the Preucil School of Music in Iowa City.

I now consider myself solidly average. I do love playing and hate the rare days when I never get to play. Music in any form is good for one's soul. It has the capacity to elicit an entire gamut of emotions, from pure joy to great sadness. One of my favorite quotes is from Beethoven is: "To play a wrong note is insignificant; to play without passion is inexcusable." My parents, while in retirement centers, always looked forward to musical events. They loved the music they enjoyed as youngsters and beyond. Fond memories were revisited. My hope is that, like my folks, you will enjoy songs from your youth and beyond and be able to conjure up some happy memories associated with the music.  Here's another quote I like from Hans Christian Andersen:  "Where words fail, music speaks."